A Steady Place for Public Servants to Rebuild Connection in Marriage
For couples who feel stuck in communication and want something deeper than surface-level fixes.
No pressure. Just a conversation to see if this feels like a fit.
You may be:
Talking in circles
Careful with your words, yet still misunderstood
Avoiding certain topics altogether
Arguing about small things that feel bigger than they should
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.These are not signs of failure.
They are common responses to prolonged stress and responsibility.
If your life requires steadiness, competence, and care for others, your relationship may be absorbing more stress than you realize.
What often looks like a communication problem is actually something deeper.
Under long term, even subtle stress, such as service work or caregiving, your nervous system can shift into protection mode.
When that happens:
Words come out sharper or quieter than intended
Listening becomes harder
Patterns of disconnection take over before you can stop them
The issue isn’t that you don’t care or aren’t trying.
It’s that your system is overwhelmed.
We slow things down enough to understand:
Why certain moments escalate or shut down
What each of you is subconsciously protecting
How to create safety so communication can actually land
When emotional safety grows, communication follows.
In our work together, we don’t just practice better conversations we build renewed connection.
Conversations that feel clearer and calmer
Less defensiveness and more understanding
Repair happening more quickly after conflict
Fewer arguments that spiral
Couples often notice:
This is what “better communication” looks like when it’s rooted in safety.
"Working with Kia we got so much more than communication tips. She gave us the support we needed to successfully have the most important conversations to us. We grew to understand each other in the ways we always hoped we could."
—Anonymous Client
Couples therapy is different from individual therapy.
Most insurance plans are structured to cover individual treatment, not ongoing care for the relationship as a whole. When insurance is used for couples work, it is often limited to a single “add-on” or drop-in session with a spouse — not the kind of consistent, relational work that helps couples create lasting change.
For that reason, couples therapy in my practice is private pay. Sessions are $175.
It is common for me to meet individually with each partner at certain points in the couples therapy process.
When individual sessions are appropriate:
They are used to support the overall goals of couples therapy
They help clarify patterns, reduce reactivity, and strengthen joint work
Insurance may be used for individual sessions, depending on your plan
We can talk through how this works during your consultation so there are no surprises.
How Payment Works for Couples Therapy
Next Steps
You don’t need to have it all figured out before you reach out. It’s actually best to start with questions.
The consultation is a brief, low-pressure conversation where we can:
Answer questions about couples therapy and insurance
Decide together what next steps make sense
Talk through what’s bringing you in
No pressure. Just a clear conversation about fit and options.